Deliberation and Restraint

Yesterday morning I had an enjoyable session. At first I thought my wife would be the sole one enjoying it, but that wasn’t the case. Once she reached her O, she took me out of the cage and allowed piv sex with a rule to stay dry; we paused and resumed several times in a hot rhythm. Then on the final attempt, I went too far—the last thrust pushed me past the point of no return—and my wife was not pleased. She shouted stop, I pulled away, but it just happened anyway. A dribble came out onto the bed. Although I didn’t get the full rush of an orgasm, I had come and she wasn’t happy about it. She told me to lock back up and hand over the key, which I did. I’m not sure if this counts as a ruined orgasm because I felt no real pleasure while the cum ran out, but mentally I still found it difficult putting the cage back on right away.

It took a few experiences with my wife for her to realize that with me, I cannot do what she wants and just "not cum." At first she was like, "harder, faster, DON'T CUM." I explained that my body doesn't work that way. A similar thing happened while she was on top, doing whatever she wanted, and just expected my not to cum no matter what, as if I had a cum gate switch I could flip to CLOSED. She was never unhappy or disappointed (well, my disappointed, but at the situation, not me). We had a mini male anatomy lesson and she was much happier about everything and the quality of our sex play went up. I guess my overall point is that, many people do not take the time to learn about the body of the opposite sex, and have only personal experience to go by when doing anything sexual. Take the time to teach your partner about your body, both objectively and subjectively (as in what you personally like, dislike, etc.). I feel this helps with overall communication, better sexual play, and an increased in understanding of why you do what you do. Even now we set aside time where just one of us is going to play with the other, and "learn" from what happens. Try different things, see what happens, get feedback. It might seem weird to some, but it is a lot of fun and makes our other play times that much better.