The Meaning of Cocktease

“Cocktease”; historically used as a put-down for women who made promises but failed to deliver. Was this concept part of your developing sexuality that you’ve embraced as an MC, or is it something a KH must set aside mentally in order to handle T&D?

My wife has confessed that she was a cocktease during her younger years. Nowadays, though, she enjoys sex greatly and occasionally grumbles that my being locked up is punishing *her*...yet she *also* thrives on control, appreciating the shift in how I act when she takes charge, which puts her in a bit of a bind. I believe she's been mulling over ways to resolve this dilemma, but remains somewhat too reserved to acknowledge it fully, even internally. Still, small hints here and there suggest those ideas are indeed present.