Putting the Device Aside for Now

Hi everyone,

This place completely changed things for Melissa and me. We got top-notch, practical advice from folks actually living the chastity lifestyle.

Male chastity truly transformed our lives—it’s not an overstatement. It genuinely boosted our marriage and rescued our sex life. Here is how:

1. The arguments about sex have vanished completely.
2. We started talking to each other in new, previously unimaginable ways: honestly, openly, and with acceptance.
3. Without the bickering and resulting resentment, we began diving into sexual fantasies we had kept hidden from one another, discovering that we really enjoy it.
4. We felt brave enough to try anything at least once; particularly things we read about here or saw online.
5. Watching porn together turned out to be genuinely enjoyable. I believe the warnings in articles claiming it destroys marriages come from uptight men or overly prudish women who haven’t given it a real chance.
6. This newfound freedom and openness gave me the guts to tell my wife that I had been with men years ago—and would do so again if she were right there beside me. I am bisexual, and she accepts this fully. She actually enjoys watching bi porn together and using a dildo on me. Plus, she is starting to get curious about women herself.
7. We gave female domination and wife-led marriage a shot and liked them well enough. However, we prefer egalitarianism even more. That’s our current setup. There came a moment when the denial started losing its spark; what we really needed was for me to just fuck her hard whenever (we) felt like it. At that point, we realized chastity should take a break.
8. We used to think male chastity would be forever, but now we see ourselves using it occasionally and for fun. We are considering a 45-day lock-down next time; the timing is just undecided yet.
9. We have stopped trying to mold each other into different shapes.
10. Our love has grown deeper than we ever imagined possible.

Male chastity was—and remains—a wonderful thing. I am certain we will return to it, but we also cherish the other freedoms it unlocked for us, and that is what we are exploring now.

I plan to visit here often because you all turn me on!

Best, Michael

That sounds wonderful. It reminds me a lot of our own situation. Without really noticing it ourselves, our marriage was teetering on the edge. Now it is as strong as ever, perhaps even stronger, thanks to our MC experiment which grew into more than just bedtime play. Right now we are (or rather, she is) testing whether a rhythm of several days of denial followed by several days of intensive lovemaking appeals to us. So it's somewhat like a shorter-cycle version of what you plan to do. In many ways, you both inspired me and gave me things to think about. Thank you for sharing. Have great fun on your journey ahead, and I look forward to hearing/reading from you again. Kiss her hand for me, K