Cunnilingus Issues in Femdom Relationships

What’s the point of a real femdom bond if she hates cunnilingus? I know there are other things we can do while my penis is locked up that she enjoys, but I absolutely love going down on her and really miss it. We’ve been together for 15 years, and I could count those times on one hand when she allowed me to give head properly. This situation bothers me greatly; what’s the use of staying chaste if she doesn’t appreciate it? I’d never known a woman who disliked cunnilingus until I met her. Who really says no to a blow job?

Perhaps she has an issue with it being 'dirty'? Have you asked her directly why she doesn't care for it?

Hygiene, religious background, or just unfamiliarity could be factors. More likely candidates include over- or under-sensitivity, discomfort with appearance/smell/odor, and past expectations. Maybe several previous partners went down on her and complained she was gross. Perhaps she prefers you to penetrate her vigorously, so your reluctance makes her feel unaroused. Or maybe she only really comes alive when smoking crack and bathing in goat blood. Communication is key. You'll never find out if you don't talk about it.

Ask her what actually brings her joy. For my princess, it's being fingered while I whisper dirty tales about helpless damsels roughly claimed by a clever man or small groups of men. I'd love to go down on her, but some over-sensitivity makes it tricky right now. I'm hopeful we'll find workable solutions, and I try not to get impatient or pressure her too much. As long as she gets what she desires in a way that keeps the power dynamic...that is femdom. Now, if you personally dislike the lack of cunnilingus...that's your own issue. You can discuss it, but chastity isn't a coupon card; you can't exchange your service for something she doesn't want. If this absence breaks the deal for you, then it truly is.

I'm another one who wishes he could make his bride climax repeatedly with his mouth while locked up. Unfortunately, she just can't handle it well. She tries, but the moment my tongue touches her, it's too much for her; she is simply too sensitive. She does let me lie between her legs to inhale her musky scent and nudge her lady bits with my nose, so not all hope is lost. Once in a blue moon, when she's extremely horny, she'll sit on my face and ride me, but this happens rarely. If I end up covered in her juices, I try to avoid washing them off for as long as possible. She can achieve spectacular orgasms through G-spot and breast stimulation, so getting her off while I'm locked is still very enjoyable for both of us.