Female and male orgasm balance

Some argue for ratios like 10:1 or even 100:1, but that seems nonsensical to me. The only truly good male orgasm is the ruined one. This keeps the man constantly focused and ready to please his female partner. When a guy first starts wearing a chastity device, he naturally wants to cum. However, after three months or more, a full real orgasm becomes just an annoyance for men. A man stays much more centered when he has very few genuine orgasms—perhaps one per year or fewer. We should stop fixating on those female-to-male orgasm ratios. A ruined orgasm is perfectly fine once the denial period sets in.

I completely agree—male orgasm is merely a nuisance, and it creates a mess on top of that. I no longer get permission to exit my device just to have an orgasm. Right now, I'm settling for ruined orgasms while locked up, but I am training myself to eliminate those as well.

You guys are absolutely crazy. I enjoy being kept in a device and waiting for my release; I also love knowing that my girlfriend can have an orgasm whenever she desires. For me, the delay acts as extended foreplay. I adore the sensation of hunger, but I refuse to give up my orgasms entirely. Regarding the mess issue, nothing feels more complete than a man's climax inside his partner, and this applies to both people involved.

I'm not entirely sure where I stand on this debate, but imposing an arbitrary seems pointless. Why not simply keep the man locked up and without an orgasm until his Key Holder gives approval? Whether the ratio is 3-to-1, 10-to-1, or even 100-to-1, it really depends on the couple. There are no strict rules here.

> member_9f265bd18f wrote: > You guys are crazy. I love being locked up and I love having to wait for an orgasm and I love making sure my gf can have one anytime she wants one. But for me the delay is just foreplay. I love the hunger but no way am I giving up my orgasms. And as far as the mess goes, nothing is as complete a feeling as the release of a man inside a woman. And that goes for both parties. They aren't crazy; they simply view things from a different angle than you do. Your opening statement holds quite a bit of irony... considering how locked up you are yourself! I wonder what others might think about that?:)

reply to finallyhappy Male orgasm is the main obstacle in this lifestyle. The woman's pleasure takes priority above all else; everything else adjusts around that core truth. A man’s desire to satisfy his partner improves significantly when he avoids having an orgasm. It works best as a ruined climax, especially after several weeks of denial.