Teasing and Keeping Him Waiting

We are fairly new to MC and have been enjoying ourselves immensely. The longest denial period I’ve had so far was 22 days. However, my KH changed things up a few days ago by simply neglecting me for most of two days. It made me feel hurt and confused. We discussed it today, and she explained that she wasn’t in the mood for anything sexual at all, so she didn’t offer any encouragement. She suggested I should take this as permission to go ahead on my own. I told her that green, yellow, or red lights are always hers to call whenever they choose, but being neglected was a bit tough for me to handle. Being the understanding KH she is, she promised to at least acknowledge the boys occasionally, noting that mere acknowledgment would be enough if she wished it so. Crisis resolved. Did I do wrong? Was I topping from the bottom? All I know is that talking about it made me feel better.

I think I should have titled this post "All I need is a little T & D".

I suppose I can't speak for anyone but myself, but I don't think what you did counts as topping from the bottom. As a keyholder, I feel it's important to keep communication open in both directions. Based on your description of the conversation, I assume you weren't demanding; you were simply telling her how you felt. This keeps the decision-making power in her hands for when that sort of situation arises again. If you are demanding or manipulating her into satisfying you despite her lack of interest—then yes, that would be topping from the bottom. I always appreciate it when my G_H lets me know his feelings because it matters to me that even when his physical needs are denied, his emotional needs are still being met.

I know exactly what you mean. I was locked up for nearly two months (or maybe just over?) last time around, and there were times when she completely ignored the chastity-play or anything sexual really. Being ignored is perhaps the hardest part of chastity-play I have ever experienced. Usually, before we started our current stint in chastity-play during those neglected moments, I would whack off to release my pressure, but being locked up means that isn't an option anymore. My sex-drive runs much higher than my GF's, so I am constantly horny as you might say:-) I have to learn to cope with not getting pleasure whenever I want... and this is very hard for me ... It feels like a roller coaster ride. Sometimes I think I can handle it just fine and go several days without mentioning chastity at all... but then other times I feel so let down that I wonder why it means so much... It's a learning process for both sides, I reckon:-)