I’m in my second week now and everything seems to be going along a bit too smoothly! My wife comes home, and I’ve already returned from work and am cooking dinner—a task that used to happen only once a week! She walks into the kitchen, gives me a kiss, then heads to the lounge and sits down to watch TV without saying anything. I love it. Now we go to bed early together so I can massage her feet until she falls asleep. This is exactly what I’ve wanted for years! One small worry: she mentioned how much she likes that I no longer go to the pub, thinking I must be saving money! Then there was a hint about my cash! That would make it very ‘real,’ and honestly, if that happens, I feel like there’s no going back. How many others have let their partners take control of their wages?

Edit: Moved to the right forum. The Journey is for personal blogging. TA

Not me! There’s no way I’d go there!

I think it really depends on personal preference regarding how much control you want her to have and whether that control extends beyond just the sexual side. I don’t see this as necessarily being part of the chastity aspect—it doesn't need to be. It comes down more to the type of relationship you share. We have a (mostly) Female Led Marriage, where I actually hold most of the reins and make most decisions. For major choices, we decide together. It’s complicated but we know what works for us. Hubby prefers that I handle the finances and pay bills; since I’m a stay-at-home mom, his income is our only one. Our marriage/relationship has been this way from the start—it would be like this whether or not chastity were involved. We’ve done well at "compartmentalizing" different aspects of our relationship... I never make chastity or denial a condition for anything else in our life. For example, with (hubby taking a career advancement course), I wouldn’t do something like "if you get an A on your exam I'll let you cum." Those two parts of life don't go together—for us... though it works for some!:) It really comes down to the relationship you’ve always had and where control fits within that. It can encompass ALL parts of your relationship or simply be control over erections, orgasms and time in the device. Hope that helps!