hi i'm new here! please share your thoughts

Greetings everyone! I’m just starting out here and wanted to say hello, share a little about myself, and offer some of my thoughts on chastity and this community. I realize forum members often overlook these introduction threads because the stats (76% fabricated by statistics, naturally) suggest that 90% of new users join only to post three or four times before vanishing forever. I can’t guarantee I’ll be any different, but at least you might enjoy hearing yet another mc story since I really love reading about others’ experiences here. There’s such a broad mix of stories, people, and situations: self-lockers, married men, FLR (married men too, obviously), keyholders, those locked for 4 days or 2 years, CBXXX users versus full steel belts… It has been entertaining, informative, and frankly HOT to read about all these experiences, which seem genuine most of the time (I feel I have a decent sense of when someone is living out an online fantasy versus doing it for real). I also want to thank folks like Tom Allen and thumper (are they one person?) for sharing so much knowledge. Many people in my position wouldn’t be able to explore their kink without contributors like you, so thanks.

So, I’m subtoy. I’m 22. My path into chastity went like this: early interest in femdom evolved into an interest in cuckolding, which then led me to Chastity. I still enjoy those other dynamics, mainly femdom, as they seem to complement each other (though I fully agree with the idea that ‘being chaste doesn’t make you submissive’).

I’m currently self-locked in a CB6000S. Naturally, part of me wishes I had a KH, but I enjoy chastity even without an S/O who shares my preferences. More on that later!

When I first bought the CB6ks, I didn’t know about these forums or what ‘pulling out’ meant. I thought I had the smallest dick in the world lol! It wouldn’t stay on even with the smallest ring. But about a year ago, I discovered my own little ‘anti-pullout system’. In another thread, I saw a guy doing something similar… I reversed the parts that normally sit against the base ring so it becomes smaller and digs slightly into my dick. I call it the frowney face system:). Initially, I worried about cutting off blood circulation because it’s quite tight, but with the right-sized basering you can wear it long-term without pulling out. The distance between the basering and cage is a bit short, but if you have a loose sack (which basically causes ‘pull outs’), it works fine. Give it a try!

I might go metal someday though. At first I thought the CBXXX line was more of a toy than a real device because people seemed to look down on it (at least compared to metal) and allowed pulling out. But now I find my current device is very competent even for long-term use. I get why some shell out extra hundreds for a Jailbird, but that doesn’t mean the CBX is useless, right?

As mentioned, there’s lots of info available from people like Tom Allen, which is great. Still, I can’t help feeling this information feels somewhat scattered or hard to find. Everything is there, just spread across different blog posts, forum threads, and sites. Someone could compile all this hygiene-device-lifestyle (for lack of a better word, Tom! What was the alternative? ‘Sincere play?’ Meh, overwrought;)) into one big site. Just saying, not complaining! What do you think?

Okay, last part of my ramble… I want to discuss something I’m struggling with. As said, I don’t have a KH right now. Never had one and never practiced BDSM… well, I have but only in the dominant role, which I like, though compared to being submissive it’s not even 1% as much for me. But I’ve never been entirely open about it. I’ve had girlfriends who likely would have been okay with it, but I never dared bring it up… not because I don’t trust them, but because I don’t really trust anyone else with this, except maybe the NSA lol. It would be fairly easy for me to find someone online to play or build a relationship with, preferably older so we’re on the same page and I can trust them more… but still. What holds me back is fear of damaging my reputation. It might be irrational, but I feel like I don’t want people knowing this about me. Plus I’m fairly ambitious, maybe even ‘promising’, and I don’t want something mainly about pleasure to interfere with life goals. I once met someone online, an aspiring young mistress my age who liked the same things, connected personally (pretty effin’ rare if you ask me), but after we met I stopped replying because I felt like I couldn’t go through with it. So yeah… still unsure whether to keep all this private or just say f*ck it, this is who I am and go for it.

Any input is greatly appreciated. Most of you are older and more experienced so react however you see fit—whether addressing one point, everything, or just saying hi. Having a forum like this is a comfort and blessing, thanks in advance, and thank you for your openness!

Well, hello there and welcome!:)