A pause from chastity to reconnect

Hi all,

My wife and I are stepping away from chastity for a bit to rebuild our connection on a fundamental level. We’re both Alphas in the primary dynamic, but we’ve struggled a bit with making our Female Led Relationship (FLR) stick. Chastity is part of that puzzle; I’ve been locked up nearly two years now. While I’m inclined to jump back into my device, we discussed last night that we’ll take it slow during this reset period. Life gets messy—two careers, kids, bills—you name it.

Just wanted to share our situation in case others relate. My guess is I’ll be locked up again soon because it’s what I want, but she feels the commitment needs to mean more than just clicking a lock shut. I completely agree. Not judging anyone else’s choices here; just sharing about us, for whatever it’s worth.

Best regards.

I relate to that. In our WLM dynamic, I'm the submissive at home but quite dominant outside. My wife is naturally submissive deep down, though she's doing well presenting herself as dominant. We tend to drift in and out of these roles rather than holding them rigidly for long periods. Today illustrates this: we were both feeling a bit listless on our date night. She teased me and allowed me to watch her orgasm, but then we just ended up watching TV while she snacked and drank independently instead of waiting on me.:)

Since both my Pet and I are alphas by nature... Could you expand a bit on the lessons learned, obstacles faced, trials endured, and solutions found in your experience? Is there anything you would have done differently? Things to avoid or encourage?

I scrolled down to reply to your post, only to discover that my key holder had already replied with nearly the exact words I was planning to use.