Spanking in Relationships
Recently, my wife and KH have added a spanking to nearly every session we share, and I really enjoy it. She’s quite skilled at identifying something that…
Recently, my wife and KH have added a spanking to nearly every session we share, and I really enjoy it. She’s quite skilled at identifying something that has annoyed her. The issue is, I’d like her to increase the intensity of her swats. She alternates between using her hand half the time and a large wooden ladle for the other half. I’ve considered trying to provoke her while she’s working on me; the only thing I can think of is how attractive I find her best friend, though there are several reasons why that might not be ideal. It seems she genuinely doesn’t want to cause me pain, but I wish she would. Next time she uses the paddle, I plan to reach up and take hold of her hand to help guide the force of her strikes. I believe this could help show her just how much I want a firm spanking.
MsM was similar; she didn't want to hurt me either. Now that I have bruising! My advice is that at first, you count each stroke AND ask for more by saying something like "One thank you Miss, may I have another?" Another thing I did was tell MsM (I write her a weekly report!) to please remember she has safe words and that I would use them if necessary. She then took things to the next level. I explained how I wanted her to push me further, showing her that I can endure pain FOR HER, demonstrating how much I care for her and love her total control over me.
Spanking and receiving a hiding is not merely "play"; living in an FLR/WLM domestic discipline setup is a fact of life that I submit to. Initially, it was play because she didn't want to hurt me, but this changed as she took more control over our marriage (and her role within it). Now, I receive spankings for minor corrections and full hidings—locked in a spreader bar—for more serious "attitude adjustments" or behavioral improvements. These hideys usually go along with extended chastity featuring NO T&D and no orgasms (often delayed by about a month, if permitted at all). Safe words work to a certain extent; during a hiding they are often ignored, and there is NO topping from the bottom anymore—it's her way. For the most part, this has improved both me and our marriage. Her tools range from paddles and hairbrushes for regular spankings to the leather tawse and dreaded cane for hideys—plus liberal application of BenGay on my backside afterward as after-care....
Wow, Caged55. Maybe I should rethink this before going any further. I'm not sure if I want to get quite that heavy with the spankings yet. Having a safe word might be a good idea; I hadn't considered it because I haven't needed one so far. It could reassure her that she isn't doing something excessive, kind of giving her a green light. I'll try it and see what happens.