Erectile issues after a quarter-century streak?

I went a full quarter-century (in days) without an orgasm and regular teasing, ending with a mind-blowing release. However, I had another solid climax about two days later, and since then, I’ve struggled to stay erect: no morning wood, weak erections that fade fast. I can still cum, but PIV sex is out of reach, which has upset me and worried my girlfriend. Could this 25-day streak have desensitized me? Is it temporary or linked to something else like stress?

The exact same thing happened around the two-year mark with my ex-partner—a smoking hot Asian woman—and I couldn’t get hard then either. It was really frustrating and might even be why we split.

Any advice or shared experiences?

Stress can definitely cause these issues. For me personally, I spent years consuming porn and masturbating every other day. Some argue that frequent porn viewing desensitizes the brain, leading to problems when it’s time for real-life sex. Before my time in chastity, I occasionally had trouble getting or keeping an erection before intercourse, frustrating a few partners along the way. Your mileage may vary, but for me, it was a combination of porn and stress. Chastity has helped reset things.

> member_bc87d71103 wrote:I went a full quarter-century (in days) without an orgasm and regular teasing... First off, I’m not a doctor. Second, while you’re a frequent poster here, I don’t know much about your specific style of play, so I have some questions: 1) Were you locked in the cage for the entire 25 days, or did you take it out and put it back on? 2) If you took breaks, were you getting erections during those times? For example, when let out for teasing then re-caged? 3) Is a duration this long typical for you? 4) You mentioned this happened before; how long had you been in chastity at that time? 5) When it occurred previously, how long did the issue last until resolved? I ask because I’ve experienced similar issues. It always seemed to pass after a few days. This usually happens when I’ve been locked for extended regular periods with little time out for full erections. My body simply gets accustomed to lacking that freedom, but it always returns. I’m also curious if there’s an emotional letdown afterward from no longer being locked. Anyway, I hope your soldier is back at a full salute soon.

Your story, especially recounting that previous episode with your ex, suggests anxiety might be complicating things. Once you experience erectile dysfunction (ED), you’re likely to worry it will return. This can create "performance anxiety" or a fear of sexual failure, which often makes the problem persist. My own experience aligns more with what PopTart suggested. When I was younger, porn and masturbation were fine for me. The same habits in my 40s led to ED, worsened by performance anxiety. If you carried that worry constantly during your 25-day denial, it could have pushed you back into the same spot.