Total orgasm control. Is it good or not?

“My KH has made up her mind that an orgasm on a set timeline—like one every month, or once every three months and so forth—puts pressure on her to grant it because the timing creates expectation. That expectation limits her slightly, giving me more chances for additional orgasms whenever she feels like it or for her own enjoyment.

Her current stance is: NO SCHEDULED ORGASMS. She grants them when SHE wants, which might be during intercourse (PIV) or while masturbating for her viewing pleasure and such. The rules tied to this decision are straightforward:

• No begging or pleading for release or orgasm
• No emotional games
• No bringing up my needs regarding orgasm
• No demands, no “games”

Orgasms happen at her sole discretion, any time they please, depending heavily on how I behave. My behavior determines whether she grants me one or more orgasms… Time will reveal the outcome, but she did mention that I should have NO EXPECTATION EVER, just waiting for her permission… It could go either way; perhaps I get more orgasms than before, though it was very clear that future ones depend entirely on my “post” orgasm conduct and general behavior before and after a permitted release. I must admit, finding out she has taken total control and “dictates” from the top is quite sexy.

hmmm does anyone else have this kind of setup?…”

That matches my arrangement pretty closely. I never know when I will come, whether it is a ruined, milked, or regular type of release that occurs. So far during the last three weeks she has given me two full orgasms and three ruined ones with one having after orgasm torture.

> member_c2fc5eadef wrote: > Orgasms, at her sole discretion This has always been our way. No schedule for us. I never know when my next release or orgasm will happen. I'm also not allowed to discuss it.