Sexual Drive / Getting What You Asked For

Hello,

My Kh and I began with gentle bondage, gradually progressing to a situation where she is the submissive in chastity while I act as her slightly sadistic Key Holder. We are both living out this fantasy.

We were both surprised to discover that these roles reflect our true natures.

I wear steel 30% of the time because my circumstances leave me with little room for escape. Another 30% involves silicone, which I use when the metal becomes problematic due to specific situations. The remainder of the time, I am free.

My question for the other men in chastity is: When I have freedom, why do I no longer masturbate as frequently as before? Previously it was a daily habit.

If I do manage one, it feels difficult because my mind still clings to the rule (“This isn’t permitted”). We’ve taken things further by involving another woman, but nothing happens—whether locked or not—without her permission.

Does anyone else share this experience?