A Newbie Seeks Guidance

Hi all, My path into chastity has been quite the ride, here’s a bit of background. Like many others, I discovered it before my wife did. I bought an affordable version of the CB6000 and mentioned it to her as something fun, but it didn’t really catch on for some reason. Two years later, trying to add some variety, we oddly enough both got hold of the Master Series Jailhouse around the same time? We wore them intermittently; one broke while I was using it, and the other rusted after six days straight. Early on, there was a moment when I put mine on for work and told her that upon my return she would be giving me a strap-on to help secure it. Now both devices are gone. I want another set, and we’ve discussed this before, but we’re at the stage where getting quality means spending $200-300 on metal hardware rather than something cheap that might fail in months. The Jailbird is what appeals to me most. Her take on chastity involves putting it on for a night out and enjoying ourselves when we return home, which works well enough, but I don’t want to invest heavily in something temporary. I’m seeking advice in several areas: Has anyone had their partner into short-term like this? How did you transition her toward longer durations? She isn’t very dominant, more traditional, so it surprises me that she’s even interested. Another question is how do you bring up the topic? It feels like sometimes she’s open to discussing it and other times my comments fall flat, making me hesitant to raise it again later. Any thoughts would be appreciated. Thanks!

> Her take on chastity involves putting it on for a night out and enjoying ourselves when we return home, which works well enough, but I don’t want to invest heavily in something temporary. Several members here have bought cheap Chinese devices that were actually Stainless Steel as claimed. That might be a solid option right now. > The advice I’m seeking covers several areas: Has anyone had their partner into short-term like this? How did you transition her toward longer durations? She isn’t very dominant, more traditional, so it surprises me that she’s even interested. Another question is how do you bring up the topic? It feels like sometimes she’s open to discussing it and other times my comments fall flat, making me hesitant to raise it again later. Sometimes patience pays off by waiting for the right moment; other times you need to make your own opportunity. You know your partner better than anyone else here, so you’re in a great spot to decide which method fits best at any given time. Either way, it seems wise to take small steps, as pushing too hard might cause her to retreat. Perhaps next time the topic comes up, mention that exploring more than just an evening—say, a day or two—might be interesting and see how she reacts. Alternatively, you could suggest using chance to decide the length of the lock-up; this way, she doesn’t need to act like a 'domme', she’s simply following the game's rules. At first, keep the duration short, perhaps determined by rolling one die. Keep the rules straightforward and offer her slightly more frequent pleasant or convenient rewards during that time—things you’d gladly do for her—with less dominance required, helping her get used to asking for what she wants.