The start of a new adventure tklh21

Greetings from Singapore, the sunny city that enjoys good weather all year round. I wonder if there are others from my country on this forum. I hope I’m not alone as a newcomer; perhaps I’ll be happy to be the first and inspire more locals to join us in this lifestyle. This might not follow the standard path for chastity, but I am living out my dream by giving up orgasms to the one I love, and it has just started. Doing so here in Singapore feels truly like a dream come true. Here is how it began: Years ago, on an impulse during some travels, I stumbled upon a CB (chastity belt/device) for fun and decided to buy one to spice up my marriage. Our relationship had been vanilla initially, but as we aged—I’m 53 and she’s 48, both Chinese—the pressures of living in this fast-paced city while raising a teenager pushed sex further down the priority list. (I am sure many share this experience). So I purchased a CB3K. When I brought it home and showed my wife, her initial reaction was repulsion; she almost threw it out right away. Fortunately, the cost stopped her from discarding it entirely, so it went into storage. That happened six years ago… Life continued as usual. Last month, while cleaning out my closet, I found that bag again and thought about giving CB another try. Around this time, I discovered this forum and read extensively to prepare myself for a new conversation with my wife. I realized now that this is not just some fleeting kink or hobby like before; it is a genuine need to control my urges and reduce masturbation, which has become somewhat of an obsession. We had a long chat, and I showed her websites highlighting the benefits of male chastity (not specifically Femdom-focused sites). She isn’t completely sold on all this yet, but she did grant me some concessions. Her answer wasn’t a hard “NO,” but rather “do whatever you like.” I took that as a small victory for getting her at least somewhat interested in this journey. After several attempts to find the right sizing and fit, I finally lock myself in. The advice here was spot-on regarding easing into it rather than locking on immediately and aiming for a full month. It took me nearly a month of trial and error to find a fit that wouldn’t hinder my daily activities while allowing me to wear it for increasingly longer periods. So far, I have been up for 7 days, and it is still going well. I’ve managed to stay clean without needing to remove the device. With help from a fitting CD (chastity doll/figure), I presented the key to my wife along with a note explaining why I want this. Essentially, it is so I stop taking her for granted. She has been the rock of our family through thick and thin, and it is high time we focused on HER needs rather than just mine. It may not be the typical reason people enter this lifestyle, but I feel that having a CD (constant reminder) will serve as a lasting prompt—for me at least—to put her first in bed and in life. She deserves it. I expected her to toss the key out the window or kick me out of the house. Instead, she calmly placed the key into her drawer and told me it would stay there; whenever I grow tired of this game, I can retrieve it myself. I have no desire to make her my Goddess or Mistress, nor do I want a full FLR (Female Led Relationship). I simply wish to be reminded that she is the only person who matters. I am happy to give up fooling around and masturbating for her sake. I will let her decide when we both get to cum or not. Wearing this device also lessens the temptation to seek pleasures elsewhere in a country full of distractions and temptations. Here, I want everything to be about her. So far it has been a week and very comfortable. Sometimes I do feel horny; all I can sense is that plastic tube surrounding my cock. It’s frustrating at times, but there is satisfaction in knowing she sees a change in my attitude at home. I am less grumpy and stressed when I arrive (and I seem to be home more often these days). She says I have some sort of ZEN about me now and am easier to talk to. She even goes so far as checking occasionally that the device is still securely in place. I tried cuddling up with her in bed, but it pokes her, which she dislikes. She keeps saying she prefers “the real thing” poking into her instead. I offer to ease her tensions orally and have done so on a few nights without expecting anything in return. She offered to unlock me to help my tension, but I am sticking to my intent: letting her feel wanted and needed while ensuring she is satisfied. I told her that SHE decides whether she wants “the real thing” or service from my tongue. I gave her control over how her orgasms happen, without needing immediate reciprocation. Then came the bombshell. “Since our anniversary will be coming up on April 21, let’s keep it lock until then so we can both have a great time TOGETHER.” What more could one ask for… I hope this lasts and that we continue living like this. We are at our happiest now, and I wish it to carry on. I just checked the drawer, and the keys are gone forever…

A small update: I think things could possibly work out. Last night, in the midst of clearing some stuff out of our closet, I accidentally brushed against the wife with the CD. Instead of being annoyed, she casually asked how it feels to be locked up like this. I told her that except for the occasional squishing of the balls when I sit, it is actually quite comfortable. She asked to see how it looks like all squashed up!!!!! Without hesitating, we went to the bathroom and I pulled my pants down to show her. She said it look absolutely comical and laughed at how small the thing (thats what she calls it)is. Feeling a bit embarrassed, but excited at the same time, I asked if she would like to be served. She said maybe later, if the mood comes. She then also showed me something that I completely did not expect. She unbuttoned her blouse and there dangling from her neck on a nice gold chain was the KEY. She IS WEARING MY KEY!!!! (or should I say HER key now) She said that she had been doing some research on her own about this whole chastity lifestyle and she would like to give it a try. We both agree that I am not looking for a FLR or to be dominated. I just want to make her happy on my own free will. She has the power to decide when she likes to be served or when she wants me to be released for more fun. We also agreed that I have the final decision to call this all off if I lose interest. Later, she asked for some fun and I readily complied. When she was done, she held out the key and asked if I would like some release. Now which dummy wouldn't? Of course I said YES. She said: "Not till the 21st" you shall have to endure for a few more days and I promise you a night you won't forget.... What more could a guy ask for..... Stay tuned for more updates after the 21st