Caged or Just Self-Disciplined – How Do They Compare?

Quick query for anyone who has experimented with OC using both the honor system and a physical device: What distinction do you see in your relationships? The core aspect seems to be handing over orgasm control to your partner, correct? Does having the actual hardware change things significantly? I’m currently without a cage. (Hoping guys and key holders will share their thoughts.)

I've spent six weeks or longer on the honor system and fifteen days while caged. Being caged is definitely my preference. I enjoy a touch of kink in everyday life; although my wife isn't destined to become a domme, this setup fulfills what I need. Overall, there's less friction—I don't feel like she overlooks my wants—and it’s mostly "set and forget" for her. It hasn’t been world-changing for me, but I do appreciate it.

I’m likely about to start on a similar journey. My wife is considering holding the keys with little intervention needed from her. Over time, I think she might find some enjoyment in it, maybe denying me occasionally if I ask for the key for self-pleasure right now we’re in a sexless but loving phase, and I’m hoping for gradual improvements. > nosaint wrote: ↑Mon Sep 14, 2020 7:16 am > I've spent six weeks or longer on the honor system and fifteen days while caged. Being caged is definitely my preference. I enjoy a touch of kink in everyday life; although my wife isn't destined to become a domme, this setup fulfills what I need. Overall, there's less friction—I don't feel like she overlooks my wants—and it’s mostly "set and forget" for her. It hasn’t been world-changing for me, but I do appreciate it.