Hansisgreat A fresh start and new punishment

Let me share a bit about my life: My boyfriend (I’ll refer to him as my Owner from here on) and I have a wonderful Dom/sub dynamic. I’m required to handle all the household chores, always showing respect and obedience to Him. On top of that, I must keep my penis shaved smooth at all times, restricted only to wearing white briefs. When I act up, get lazy, or show disrespect, He punishes me. A key part of our agreement is accepting whatever discipline He hands down without complaint, even when it feels unjust. Typically, I receive spankings with the wooden hairbrush he keeps on his nightstand, which stands as the ultimate symbol of His authority over me. He makes me stand in the corner with my pants around my ankles and my stinging red bottom exposed for all to see. If I talk back, He washes out my mouth with soap. I also have to complete extra chores. You know… punishment. Another condition is that I cannot ejaculate without His permission. Usually, I obey. Occasionally, I’ll rub one in the shower and just take the beating as payment. He brought home a spiked chamber chastity cage from Boyzshop. The concept was for me to wear it when we are apart, ensuring I am punished for getting hard unless he is with me. That thing is super uncomfortable, though. I can’t possibly wear it every day. Plus, putting it on is tricky: it took us both time figuring out how to secure it without pinching too much. He is a good Owner so today He ordered a different one: The Lockdown. It should arrive in a few days. Until then I’m free (but obedient and abstinent). I’ll keep you posted. I appreciate this forum as a journal and a sounding board. Please feel free to reach out to me. I’m here because I want to talk about it.

We’re still not exactly sure what we’re doing or how this is going to go. The spiked chamber cage was a bit of a disappointment: uncomfortable even when I’m soft, and difficult to put on. It’s impractical. I’m really looking forward to getting the new one, hopeful I can wear it on the regular. This started because I have an ingrown hair on my butt, and my boyfriend can’t spank me for the time being because of it. We’ve also been looking for a while for alternative forms of punishment. I honestly don’t think I’m going to end up being entirely chaste: he does love when I top him from time to time. More like I have to wear it when I’m not with him. I imagine having the cage on all day when he’s at work (I work from home) and then it feels really good when he gets home and I can take it off. I love him so much already. Anyway, can’t wait for the new cage to get here. It should ship today.

Are the spikes removable or adjustable? Most that I’ve seen have spikes that can be adjusted or removed completely. I’ve considered a spiked cage, but know that I would have to change out the pointed spikes to the style that has the flattened tip (available online) or it would be terribly uncomfortable, even for just playtime.

The spikes are not removable. Honestly though it’s not the spikes that were the problem, it’s just very hard to put on and uncomfortable to wear in general. Pinchy in all the wrong places. I was dumb and should’ve started with something more basic. I have a tendency to go overboard with new things I’m excited about. I’ll put a link to the one I got below. Thanks for your response. I really do want some contact with a couple other people in the community. This is all new to me. ... stity-cage

WOW, that cage IS extreme!!

I’m not a very spiritual person. Kink and sub life is my spirituality. I feel closest to god, the universe, whatever, when I’m being spanked. The first tenet of Buddhism is to recognize that life involves pain. The second is to accept pain and not to recoil from it or resist it. When I’m over the knee I try to remember this: relax, give myself over to the punishment, and accept the pain rather than resisting it. The third tenet is to realize cessation: experience the peace and freedom that comes from the end of craving and grasping, achieving a state of liberation. That’s what I am trying to find here, with being caged. To desire is to suffer, I need to lose my own desires and learn to become a blank space. The fourth and final step is to learn to occupy this space where one transcends desire. Become indifferent to pain and deprivation. Acknowledge them, but with curiosity rather than fear and anger. I’m not trying to say cock caging is something it’s not, just that it’s a path for me. I’m not going to go to church or some monastery. Meditation doesn’t really interest me, but when my boyfriend sends me to stand in the corner and stare at a blank wall, isn’t that a kind of meditation? Learning to accept the pain of the hairbrush, and the denial of having my penis locked up… it’s the closest thing to spirituality I can go for. Maybe I’m being silly.