Female led relationships discussion

I’m looking for some guidance on how to get my wife to elevate our chastity dynamic. Since December, when we tried out a CB6000s, we’ve been exploring this lifestyle. I’ve always desired her to step into a more dominant position within our partnership, and this felt like an excellent avenue for her to gain control without disrupting our daily lives too much. She has grown to appreciate the extra affection and intensity it adds to us. Because the trial went so well for both of us, we chose to buy a Jailbird from MatureMetal. We now possess a device that fits perfectly, offering superior security and moving us beyond just occasional play into a full-time lifestyle choice. However, she hasn’t fully stepped up as key holder. I realize it’s not my job to lead the dance while staying seated at the bottom, but our original goal in choosing chastity was precisely for her to become more dominant with me. She doesn’t merely put up with it; she truly enjoys it. She does remember to tease me occasionally in subtle ways, though often I end up teasing myself by watching porn before bed or leaning against her as we drift off. I’ve discussed the teasing aspect of chastity with her. She has read “A Keyholder’s Handbook”. I created a Tumblr for us that she visits now and then; it features scenarios I reblogged that really excite me. I have shared ideas with her that require little effort on her part, which she likes, yet she hasn’t put them into practice. Two main hurdles appear to be holding her back.

• Our schedules are packed, and she views anything outside our normal routine (whether sexual or not) as “work”
• She is hesitant about keeping me locked for longer than a week because of concerns regarding potential health issues. I really want to persuade her to sign up here and chat with other Key Holders. I worry she might just view it as more work, though. Could any Key Holders send messages to her via me? I’d like to show her that this is a welcoming space for her. That we can add more teasing and denial into our marriage without requiring her to become a full-time Dominatrix. No matter what happens here, these last 5 months have breathed new life into our bond. If this is the path forward, I’ll accept it gladly, but I’d love to see how wonderful it gets for us both when we reach that next stage.