Introductions discussion

I struggle to understand why my wife humbles and attempts to take control of me. People often mistake male ego for self-worth. She mocks my small penis, feminizes me, and so on—all with the goal of dismantling my male ego while leaving my feelings of self-worth intact. My partner has consistently backed everything I do, including her assigned tasks, provided I give it my all. By wearing down my male ego, she turns me into a more submissive man than before.

I submit to my wife not because she perceives me as inherently submissive, but because she believes women are the superior sex in our species. To dominate effectively, you must make someone submissive and ensure they enjoy it. Some people mix up the reason with the method; I keep them separate. My spouse never ridicules how I look or handle my job. Her domination and humiliation focus purely on my male ego, and her approach is working—I can feel that ego being suppressed.

One of her close friends held three Master degrees alongside two Bachelors in different fields. She was highly educated and knew exactly how to control a man. Her husband displayed even more submission than I do. Although she didn’t engage in the physical aspects of BDSM as intensely as some, our sessions were incredibly satisfying because she knew precisely which buttons to push using just her words. With nothing but her voice, she could crush my male ego, reducing me to trembling fear and a willingness to let her choke me out if she chose—though she rarely exerted that much force compared to what she promised. She always respected my intelligence, never assuming submissives lack value or are unimportant members of society. During our BDSM intimacy, I felt treated with respect and valued as an integral part of our D/s dynamic. The only true difference was the sexual roles we assumed; we complemented each other and met one another’s needs. Afterward, we returned to equality and often went on dates while my wife stayed home to cook for us. Once the collar goes around my neck or I receive orders to strip, we shift into Dom and Sub.

So, what does everyone think about why and how your wife, girlfriend, or paid/unpaid Mistress dominates and humiliates you? Reading online stories makes me wonder: are most of them genuine? Where is the boundary between a healthy D/s relationship and an abusive one? At what point does submissiveness become a mental health concern rather than just a sexual preference? Now that I am older, having spent many years exploring various fetishes with a modest number of partners, I reflect on these questions. I also miss my younger days when sex was wilder and more frequent. Back then, as a flower child, sex, drugs, and rock and roll defined my lifestyle.:)