Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

I am a married man who is interested in learning more about male chastity and female led relationships. The idea of being chaste or acting submissive turns me on like nothing else does. The problem is my personality. I have always been an assertive personality, the kind of person who doesn’t take any shit from anyone. It makes me mad when my wife scolds or yells at me, but sometimes it turns me on. It’s just who I am. Do I ignore or stuff away who I am just because submissiveness turns me on?