Female led relationships discussion

Hi everyone! Note to reader: I am a 100% straight male, have been married to my lovely wife since 7.5yrs, and we’ve been together for many more years. Before you start trashing me, please… read on. I am a 36-yo male who has gotten intrigued by the D/s philosophy. I got introduced to FLR by reading “Around Her Finger”, and I must say this is an awesome read! This book was a first of many in my exploration of my new-found “wisdom”; but still, to date, it remains the best. Reading through this book had me realize that FemDom is something that pulls my plugs (plug), and that it is something that I wanted to do something with. This lead to me gathering the courage to confess to my wife that I get turned on by the thought of being dominated by her. And the awkward discussions that obviously follow such a confession… My main reason for posting here, however, is that I cannot seem to find an equal soul here on these forums with regards to what triggers me & what not; What plays for me is that: I love my wife to death, and I know she loves me likewise! We are not separating anytime soon;) But: I would love for my wife to have & enjoy having sex with anyone she chooses to, with or without me being present. I would also like her to take ownership of my sex life by obliging me to wear a chastity belt. And for the latter, she has already done so by using our cb6000s, but it has ended because the device overtook the philosophy, which is the point where everything fails. What bothers me specifically, is that in everything I’ve read up until now (and that’s a lot of books!), my sentiments seem to be classified as me being a “cuckold” or as being a “forced sissy”. While I don’t oppose to the idea of ever being cuckolded by my wife (and am rather attracted by the idea), I absolutely have no desires nor intentions to ever becoming, at any level, a sissy! My wife would also be appalled by the fact of me behaving/dressing like a female, and I couldn’t blame her, because it’s not my thing. Like I said: my kick is in being dominated by my wife, at any level. And more so, my kick would be in her enjoying absolute sexual freedom while controlling my personal freedom in that aspect to the smallest extent: getting hard, being allowed to fuck, being allowed to cum, etc… This is of course where chastity belts come in. For me personally, that has nothing to do with being gay/bi and/or liking to be a crossdresser. But this is where I seem to fall short. Any book on this subject that I seem to find, or any posts on any FemDom forums (including ), are about and/or written by males that seem to enjoy acting as females and/or being neglected by their wives. Are there any other males out there like me who are 100% male & don’t want to dress like a woman, but who DO want their wives to fuck around and to dictate their own sex lives? If so, please respond to this post! Thank you!