Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Right now, I’m a lone man who mostly dates conventional women. As an open-minded Christian and just your average guy in society, I harbor strong desires regarding chastity and kink. I’m looking for a tested approach to talk about this with prospective partners or when the time is right to share it with someone. I’d love to hear what others have experienced when telling their significant other, specifically what are the most effective methods for guiding a conventional partner toward accepting the idea. Thank you!