Female led relationships discussion

Mistress has turned a corner… I am taking no prisoners when it comes to my slave husband. He is receiving regular spankings, ordered to wear his butt plug harness daily and if he complains at all, the crop appears! I really am loving this new strictness of mine as it brings much better results. He does exactly what I say and gives me plenty of attention . It can be tough being very firm when you love someone and share your home 24/7 since staying in that mental space is sometimes tricky. Does anyone else have a similar setup? If so, how do you keep both of you focused? Looking forward to hearing what you think;)