Female led relationships discussion

Dear Mistress,

I want to share some thoughts and concerns I have. My wife is naturally very dominant, so it comes easily for me to submit to her. Right after our wedding, I brought the Femdom lifestyle into our lives. Now, I am officially her submissive around the clock. I must obey her; she keeps me locked in a metal belt… She acts as the head of both our marriage and family, effectively taking on the role of the husband in many traditional marriages. As a result, this sense of submission is awakening my feminine side, what we often call my ‘sissy needs’. To help develop and maintain my position as her submissive, I suggested that she wear female underwear (which humbles me but also turns me on). We have noticed some improvement in my behavior since doing so, helping me feel more like a woman.

However, I still struggle to meet her standards and expectations. Often, I disappoint her; she gets quite upset and punishes me for it, usually by being rude or hostile, and sometimes with spanking. For instance, recently I was 2 minutes late picking her up after work for our date night. She was very disappointed. Then, I dared to reply to a text on my phone while she was talking to me. She got really mad and gave me a good slap in public. I felt angry at first before realizing what an idiot I had been.

My wife has high standards and expects me to meet them. I love her deeply—more than anything else in my life. I just wish to be a better husband, specifically as her submissive partner. I have suggested that she increase our training sessions (currently we don’t really train; she spanks me occasionally), provide clear guidelines and rules (by ‘clear’, I mean knowing what happens if I fail to obey).

I am sharing this here hoping you might share your experiences too: Is effective training helpful for improving submission, and what kind of training works? Does punishment help, and which types are best? Do you give a comprehensive list of duties or rules regarding allowed and disallowed actions? And do you think helping the submissive become more feminine is beneficial, and how do you handle it when he wants to feel his masculinity at the same time?

Those are my questions. I look forward to hearing from you.