Introductions discussion

Hello all. I’m a newcomer to this community and the world of chastity.

Just sharing some background: My wife is my soulmate, and we know each other inside out. I’ve been part of the ABDL scene for as long as I can recall, and my partner has always understood and joined in with my fetish. While many might not fully grasp that subculture, it recently paved the way for chastity.

My preference is to live diapered most of the time; this aligns with what I’ve come to call honorarium-style chastity. The rule was simple: if I had something on, hands off—or so I should have! My wife takes a dominant role in our dynamic.

The challenge has been practicality; wearing a nappy 24/7 year-round isn’t always feasible. Often, I’d end up in the bathroom to masturbate, which abruptly ended any arousal for both of us. This left not only me but also my wife frustrated for a day or two afterward—I would do whatever she wanted around the house or in our room until things normalized.

Recently, while browsing online, I started reading about Female Led Relationships (FLR). It seemed like an excellent concept, particularly because it includes chastity. Instantly, I realized this is what we need (and I’m starting to wonder if the entire ABDL and sissy scenes are just disguises for this dynamic).

I discussed it with my wife, letting her read articles on FLR and chastity; she loved the idea. Within 24 hours, she had measurements ready (141/3.14) — a 45mm diameter ring—and was purchasing me a stainless steel birdcage.

After some effort, I got the ring seated correctly. About fifteen minutes later, the cage was on too. Erections made it tricky, but my wife commented that they prove I enjoy it! The fit is perfect; I don’t see how I could remove it without causing significant discomfort or damage. It’s not overly tight and doesn’t ride up high, covering about three-quarters of my length. There’s no rubbing or excessive pain (it was actually a pleasant sensation) even when getting hard while locked in.

Naturally, as soon as the lock clicked shut, there was a knock at the front door—it was my mother-in-law! The keys were downstairs, so I just threw on some shorts and spent an hour with my laptop on my lap while lounging on the sofa.

Later that evening, We discussed the details. We agreed to take it slow initially; I’ll wear it primarily at home (I work as a wagon driver, so I’m away for nights about two times a week). This coming weekend will be my first full test: Friday through Monday morning. Afterward, we can adjust.

We swapped out the standard padlock for one of our own with three keys total. She keeps one; the other two are hidden around the house. If she’s at work or shopping and there’s an emergency, I’ll need to contact her to find a key location. As mentioned, my job as a wagon driver might require occasional removals. However, if I carry a spare key, it defeats the purpose since I could easily free myself (which I actually did today!). So, she has access to plenty of strong plastic seals that we plan to use. She will seal it and note the number on the tag. If I need to remove the ring or text her for an explanation before replacing it ASAP, I’ll provide a new number.

I wore it until bedtime. She made me give her an orgasm first, then unlocked me so she could finish off. Wow, it was incredible; I don’t recall coming like that in ages.

Both my wife and I are excited about this journey ahead. She enjoys spanking and tying me up and loves how motivated I am to do chores—like washing dishes or vacuuming (which I rarely do unless diapered, even then she has to nag)—to improve our sex life.

Any advice, tips, or input is always welcome. Cheers