Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Originally penned by a Mistress Domme, and I believe her perspective is highly insightful:angel:

It’s wonderful to see submissive men show their love, adoration, and worship toward dominant women through cooking, cleaning, laundry duties, and serving us hand and foot with massages, grooming, tongue work, sexual acts, and accepting our punishment, humiliation, controlled orgasms, and more. Yet in my view, one or two issues will eventually arise for most Dommes within these dynamics. Even vanilla women face similar challenges. I’m sure some ladies might want to burn me at the stake for admitting this publicly to a mostly male crowd, but here is the truth: women require a challenge in their relationships with men. This holds true for both Dommes and vanilla partners alike. However, submissive men are especially prone to losing that challenging edge after time has passed. The reality is simple: once we have you wrapped around our fingers, it becomes difficult not to look elsewhere! So what should a sub do? Start deliberately disobeying his Domme to regain that challenge status? Most would call this topping from the bottom. At minimum, any sharp-eyed Domme will see through such tactics clearly. Personally, I wouldn’t appreciate it if a sub, with whom I’ve built a comfortable bond, regressed into these old habits after I invested significant time training him exactly how I like! Then comes cuckolding, the ideal remedy. Cuckolding provides us with an endless flow of new challenges, and hopefully, our subs fall even deeper into submission during this process. Even if a sub somehow manages to stay challenging forever in his Domme’s eyes, deep down, most women crave that occasional high-testosterone, dominant, dark-complexioned, fierce, well-endowed, sculpted, hunter-type lover (often called an alpha-male) to fulfill our need for a truly profound and satisfying fuck. I suspect there may be elements of genetic engineering at play here, beyond just selfish, wild sexual desire. I think these urges are attempts to satisfy our biochemical survival instincts by seeking the strongest gene pool for reproduction. We must ask ourselves why we receive such earth-shaking, multiple orgasms when we yield to such men! If your woman claims she never feels this way, there’s a good chance she is lying to protect your feelings! However, the issue with the alpha-type lover I described earlier is that many make poor life partners! We truly cannot have both sets of traits (submissive beta and dominant alpha) in one man simultaneously. Thus, women often settle for what they believe serves them best long-term, yet usually find themselves craving their partner’s counterpart qualities later on. No wonder relationships are so complex? Sure, women can suppress these urges, but suppression frequently manifests negatively elsewhere. Once again, cuckolding steps in. I get my submissive man with all his caring and endearing traits, while also scanning the environment for Mr. Alpha when the urge hits me. And I do this without guilt or fear of being caught! For all these reasons, I believe that cuckolding within solidly established F/m relationships will eventually become standard practice rather than the exception. I know a sub might worry his Domme will find someone better and leave him behind. But let’s be realistic here. Finding a suitable submissive man, then training him to near perfection is no small feat! Contrary to popular belief, those ratios of 20:1 up to 100:1 male subs to Femdoms you read about are total nonsense! Most self-proclaimed ‘male subs’ are either clueless aspirants, lurking wankers, timid and unsure, outright fakes, or already taken. Unattached, truly submissive, trainable men are much rarer than we’ve been told. So if a Domme can have her cake and eat it too, why would she abandon her sub? To fall in love with Mr. Alpha while leaving behind a wonderful, loving, adoring, well-trained sub? You must be joking!