Female led relationships discussion

I’ve recently come across a discussion here that made me consider what happens when there’s a setback, specifically orgasming without permission.

This isn’t about their specific issue; I’d appreciate replies that don’t get bogged down in it. My knowledge of their relationship is limited, and frankly, neither do most people here.

That said, the consequences or feelings involved have piqued my curiosity. I discussed it with my KH, who mentioned we would need to decide if this was something we wanted to keep doing if an unapproved O occurred.

Not exactly what I anticipated. I expected her to be more of a punishment-oriented partner, especially since she seems to enjoy the role almost as much as I enjoy giving up control. However, I can also view it as a hurtful gesture that undermines all the effort they put into maintaining authority.

I tend to see it as an act of temporary weakness; it’s obviously difficult to stay in check otherwise we wouldn’t be wearing a lock on it. This is particularly true if the KH was informed and an apology offered.

I expect I’ll hear plenty about how it’s a mortal sin, but honestly, I thought it would feel more like a moment of awe-struck realization. It seems my KH takes things somewhat more seriously. We will have that detailed discussion with her eventually.

So as a KH, what would your reaction be? Or perhaps, what do you think your own KH’s reaction would look like?