Introductions discussion

Hi all, I’ll take a moment to catch my breath before diving into this introduction. I’m not sure where to begin, so let’s start at the beginning. Since I was quite young, I’ve had a strong interest in cross-dressing and being submissive. Lacking the right understanding back then, I ended up dating men for a period even though my heart really belonged to women. Now married (it’s been a few years), I’ve kept those desires tucked away for various reasons. Recently, however, they’ve started surfacing more often in my dreams, and I’ve just begun sharing these with my wife. Since this is all new ground for us, I feel quite nervous about it all. There seems to be an inner conflict between the masculinity society expects of me, my natural femininity, and a blend of dominant and submissive traits within myself. I want to avoid overwhelming her by dumping everything at once, which has been tough because opening up requires placing deep trust in someone. I recently brought up chastity devices with her, along with ideas around femdom and FLR. Having sown the seeds, I’m giving her space to process what I’ve shared and deciding when she might ask further questions. Eventually, I hope to also tell her about my cross-dressing interests. I’ve glanced through some other threads here and found a lot of information really useful. Any advice from others who have experienced something similar is greatly appreciated. It’s reassuring that places like this exist to help people open up intimately with their loved ones. I stumbled upon this site by searching for male chastity online, hanging around as an unregistered user for several weeks.