Female led relationships discussion

How does discord impact your time in chastity? I recently had a minor row with my mistress. It was more of a personal spat than a lifestyle dispute, centered on her jealousy about me reconnecting with an ex-partner. She trusts me deep down and knows I wouldn’t stray, but past hurts leave her feeling vulnerable.

While enjoying some drinks during the game and anticipating some playtime, I became slightly irritable. I remarked something along the lines of, “It’s locked tight; in fact, it’s pierced so I can’t even slip it off to masterbate. If that doesn’t calm your nerves, nothing will.”

In the end, I felt hurt and upset, turned over, and went to sleep. But then doubt crept in about our whole dynamic. What am I doing? I’m obeying all the rules, making sacrifices—why is this perceived slight affecting our sexual relationship?

If it were something specific I did or failed to do, I could accept punishment or more time in the cage… but what happens when …well, I haven’t done anything wrong? That’s when you wonder wtf kind of crazy arrangement have I entered?! Just give me the key because I’m going to beat this thing into submission. (I didn’t actually ask for it.)

We’ve already reconciled, and she apologized for her jealousy, but it raised some questions about having someone control your privates while you also deal with relationship bumps.