Female led relationships discussion

Do you have any tips for me? What ideas do you have for my next steps? We’re just starting out in this, but he has quite a few fantasies. It feels like there are specific expectations about what I need to do and how I should behave as the dominant partner after years of watching porn and live cams. From what I’ve seen here so far, it seems common for men to hold onto these ideas. How can I make him truly submit and prioritize my needs over his? I have punished him before, but those efforts haven’t seemed effective; he hasn’t really shifted much because maybe I’m not handling it correctly or something similar. Just seeking out some new perspectives.

One more detail: he is currently locked up.