Introductions discussion

Hi there! I’m a single, submissive man aged 63 from New Braunfels, Texas. While I consider myself straight, I’ve spent years wondering what it’s like to be under the control and care of a male partner. For about two years, I served a lady but decided to stop when she began discussing marriage; as a divorced guy with some wear and tear, I wasn’t keen on tying the knot again.

I have an amputation just below my knee but can move around almost fully thanks to my prosthetic leg. Also, I’m what you might call a “stealth” cross-dresser. My goal isn’t to pass as female or necessarily look like one, but I love wearing women’s clothes in public that still read as menswear at first glance. It’s a bit of a mix.

Chastity has fascinated me since I understood the term. With my children (whom I have sole custody of) now grown and independent, I feel free to re-engage with my kinkier side, specifically chastity.

Recently, I purchased a cock cage from

and began using it with the goal of staying locked 24/7. The only exceptions will be for monthly cleaning and skin checks. Only time will tell if I make it.

I discovered this community while searching Google for info on cock cages that feature a urethra insert (or whatever that specific component is called). Reading about how the pin or plug offers extra security really appealed to me; the idea of having something hollowed out so I can urinate through it inside my penis gets me excited!

HOWEVER, infection was a concern. Medical sites suggest infections are quite possible with these inserts, yet long-term users of cock cages with urethra plugs report no issues. It’s confusing to say the least. My working theory is that unlike medical catheters which go into the bladder, penis plugs stay in the urethra, so I assume the infection risk is much lower. Has anyone here used penis plugs and can share their thoughts?

On the topic of (penis) plugs, I’m also quite fond of butt plugs.:) I’ve dabbled with them intermittently but never really committed to the kink until now. Being divorced, retired, and without kids at home means I have plenty of time on my hands, so I want to try wearing a butt plug daily.

Currently, I wear

in place for about 18 hours each day (I take it out to sleep). Every morning after waking, I wait until I’ve had three bowel movements or until three hours have passed—whichever happens first. Once that window closes, the plug stays in for the rest of the day, whether I’m at home or out.

I’ve noticed that most Doc Johnson plugs stay put once inserted without worrying about popping out while out and about. My current one is being swapped for a slightly larger/longer model from

which should arrive later this week.

Hopefully, by gradually increasing the plug’s diameter over time, my anus will stretch enough to eventually accommodate penetration. The big question is: once I hit that size target, how do I keep using a plug without having to constantly increase its width just to stop it from falling out in public?!! Maybe my diaper fetish will evolve into a necessity rather than just a kink…this rabbit hole of mine (about butt plugs) goes incredibly deep! Film at 11.:)