Female led relationships discussion

I’m a single man and have been for some time.

I’ve had several relationships where chastity was part of the deal, but they ended up ending for various reasons.

I’ll begin this section by noting that I don’t mind Pro Dommes at all. In fact, I’ve encountered quite a few myself and enjoyed good sessions with them, so my comments aren’t directed at them.

A while back in my journey, I used to receive plenty of messages (on other platforms) offering to lock me up for a fee.

Some were straightforward and said they required payment upfront for their services. Others weren’t; after several messages where they hinted at seeking a relationship, it turned out they just wanted someone to hold the key for money once they had “hooked” me or so they believed.

Over time, I recognized the typical patterns. Although I hoped this particular lady would be different, I could predict her next move. Sure enough, she soon started talking about locking up and sending all keys along with tribute (note that none of them ever mentioned a gradual buildup or safety measures for emergencies or doctor visits).

I received another message from a chastity site yesterday but didn’t reply because it was “one of those” messages, jumping straight to the end with “contact me via my email if you are interested” after a long copy-pasted text.

As I mentioned at the start, this isn’t a complaint about Pro Dommes or genuine ones who hold keys for tribute. It’s more about the “chancers” who assume I’ll just hand over money to a stranger and give up my key too.

It feels similar to ladies receiving “kneel bitch!” messages from supposed Doms who demand submission via message, even though they are complete strangers.

I’m posting this because it’s been ages since I got “those kind of messages.” When I saw the latest one, I chuckled at myself. A few years ago, I would have gotten all excited about the prospect, but now I know better with these types of messages from strangers and have learned to be more cautious rather than engaging.

Maybe I’m getting too cynical and a bit jaded lol.

Do others get this kind of message?