Female led relationships discussion

I’ve been in chastity and experiencing an FLR with my wife for just over six months now. I always figured I was naturally submissive since I genuinely love her dominating me. But lately, that assumption is wavering because I don’t believe submission is truly my default setting. When left completely on my own, I tend to drift back toward doing things my way and at my own pace, and my urge to please my Mistress begins to fade. She can easily pull me back into a deeply submissive mindset through various means. By far the most effective method has been our weekly punishment spankings. After she thoroughly uses her wooden spatula on me, I become hyper-submissive. The issue arises when too much time passes between these displays of dominance or if her effort feels lackluster. For instance, last week’s session should have been intense. The previous week had gone way off track due to my behavior as we were recovering from a chastity break where I managed four unpermitted orgasms. I was quite apprehensive about this punishment, but she stopped after just six or seven strikes (with 30 being her record). Additionally, there was only one attempt at tease and denial, and it wasn’t very strong. Given that she had just finished an orgasm herself—which usually signals rest—I hadn’t expected much more. However, on other days during this period, a stronger gesture would have been beneficial. Currently, about nine days have passed without any real, forceful act of dominance from her side, leaving me feeling far less submissive than usual. This morning was so bad that I nearly skipped making the bed and preparing her smoothie because I just didn’t feel like it.

This brings us to why this thread exists and what I’m curious about regarding all of you: Do you consider yourselves naturally submissive? Or do you need external dominance to unlock your submissive nature?