Birdlocked discussion

Hello everyone. We received our Birdlocked yesterday. We waited for Lis to finish work at 10 PM so we could finally see how it worked when she arrived. I thought the plan was straightforward: passionate sex, followed by her locking me in. But reality didn’t quite match up… To start with, if you run hot, ice isn’t your friend—at least not for us, especially given my current situation. Anyway, I eventually made myself go down on her. I’d heard that regular bath soap could make fitting the device easier, so we lathered me up and managed to get it seated without too much fuss. It seemed far less complicated than what others had described. That should be promising, right? Wrong. It was just a hint of things to come. The moment our passion picked back up, my erection forced the ring upward until it hit the tip. One small bump later and off it went. Lis lost her mood instantly, declaring that I wasn’t earning any release until we sorted this out (yes, I know how ironic that is). So I rinsed everything off and tried again without lube. It was a bit harder to seat than before, but not overly difficult. The ring did stay put better for a while, yet the outcome ended up being identical. This time she looked more than just slightly let down (which ought to worry me) and perhaps even a little frustrated with our efforts. Needless to say, we could use some guidance. Any tips would be appreciated.