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I’m fairly new here. I’ve been exploring the concept of chastity with my girlfriend, handing over control of my cock to her, and we’re really enjoying it so far.

After testing out two different devices (a CB-6000 and another steel one) that didn’t quite fit right, I decided to take it slow at first. I’m letting her manage my orgasms or allow me a few days of touching myself by making a promise and sticking to it through sheer willpower—with the goal of gradually extending those periods, while also giving her the chance to enjoy exercising control over my sexuality:) I’ll reconsider getting a device if it proves too difficult. I’ve already found some great inspiration on this forum: the referenced community page

I’ve discovered that committing to a specific timeframe helps, which can then be extended. There’s no problem with taking breaks and starting another commitment afterwards. What matters most is that once I make a promise, I keep it. If I slip up, I need to confess seriously and humbly, asking her how we should handle the situation.

To help myself along, I’m using a few tools:

• I’ll use a lace she can tie around my cock; I love the feeling of “getting locked up” by her, finding it quite sexy. She ties it when I’m not overly horny, so if desire builds later, the lace serves as a reminder.
• My phone has an app showing “Time since…” that displays how long it’s been since my commitment started. This visibility helps keep me motivated because I don’t want to break this chain of X days.
• Writing in this journal here seems helpful for tracking my experiences over the longer term as well.

A few weeks ago during a trip, I had my first denial period. I promised not to cum until we met again but was permitted to masturbate. It was a lovely experience; often, building horniness led to sexy chat conversations.

Currently, I’ve committed to no touching myself and no watching porn without asking her permission until Sunday. This feels quite challenging because I’m somewhat addicted to femdom porn, so it will take significant willpower.