Introductions discussion

Greetings! My spouse, who acts as my @Keyholder Mommy, and I have shared over two decades of marriage and are about to send our daughter off to university. Our union is solid, yet we’ve let it slide a bit lately. Throughout our time together, her sex drive plummeted while mine stayed strong. I never strayed physically, but I built up a serious addiction to pornography. She was aware that I masturbated, though perhaps not the extent of it. Until quite recently, I did so daily, sometimes two or three times per day. With empty nesting on the horizon, I realized we needed to address this.

I deal with bedwetting and an overactive bladder. For more than ten years now, I’ve worn diapers at night and often during the day as well. By nature, I am submissive and have always strived to make my wife happy. Recently, I asked her how we might begin reconnecting again; it’s no small feat after fifteen-plus years of drifting apart. I proposed that we build on my diaper-wearing habits by adopting a Mommy/Baby dynamic at home. We started with her putting the diaper on me while I suckled from her breast as we watched television together. This sparked a magical fire between us both. Around the same time, she shared what makes her content: a daily ‘Princess’ treatment, involving grand and small gestures to please her so she feels like royalty. This brought out a more submissive side of me than I realized possible. She hasn’t had to do the dishes since we started this new routine. Every morning I make her bed, and each night I turn it down for her, sometimes leaving a little love note on her pillow. I fold origami shapes into the toilet paper rolls constantly, always looking for ways to surprise her.

It didn’t take long before we agreed that this was indeed the path forward for saving our marriage. We read up more on Female Led Relationships (FLR) and both felt convinced it suits us perfectly. We continued in our Mommy/Baby bliss until I found orgasm denial as a way to deepen my commitment to her. It has grown so much that I no longer pee in the toilet at home; everything goes into the diaper now, which my wife changes more often than not. While this diapers-and-Mommy dynamic isn’t for everyone, it works beautifully for us.

We started orgasm denial without a cage, relying just on my promise to stop masturbating completely (cold turkey). It has been tough, and I did slip up occasionally. My wife was initially hesitant about the idea of a cage. I didn’t push too aggressively (I hope), but I explained how wearing one would help me honor our commitment both mentally and physically. Since she is quite vanilla, I had to guide her along the way, often leading by serving.

We experimented with it intermittently over recent weeks. This week—during the first week of Locktober—we decided to commit to the full month. I asked if I could keep a key in my wallet for emergencies. She dismissed this notion, thinking it pointless for herself to hold a key while I had one too. Imagine my surprise! So I complied with her request, and now we are on our way toward chastity with her holding sole custody of the only key. I’m going through intense emotions due to the loss of control, as well as repeated awe at how much my wife has changed during this journey. As she finds her footing as the leader in our FLR, I have stepped back slightly from ‘helping’ and let her lead more fully. I never would have guessed things would evolve like this; it feels surreal just how close we’ve become. We haven’t kissed nearly this much since our honeymoon.

We are both genuinely thrilled about what lies ahead and have promised ourselves to keep improving our FLR dynamic. She keeps surprising me with her embrace of the role. As for me, I am learning foot reflexology so I can give better massages. I painted her toenails last week, which she seemed to really enjoy, though I know I still have room to improve there. As we explore wearing a cage and extending our orgasm denial period, both of us hold high hopes for the future.

This community has been an invaluable resource throughout our journey so far, and I wanted to share my story as a way of saying thank you while hopefully becoming a contributing member here.