Female led relationships discussion

…My husband (in a cage) and I are fairly new to this…we have played off and on for several years, but he always gets too aggressive for me, meaning that he constantly wants to tell me what to do for him, to make him happy. Things like spanking, or pegging, or whatever he desires all day long… so I take the cage off and say to hell with it. This time, he has been in a cage for about a month. He came the same night I put him in his cage, and I didn’t let him cum again for two weeks…then I left him in the cage and allowed him to cum using a vibrating toy…He behaved very well, In my opinion…I’m sure that I wasn’t paying attention to every single need of his during that month..but I don’t think that is my job…We both work, go to bed at 9 and get up at 5…so most of our days are long hours at work or one of our four grown kids needs something. Real life does happen…But this week, we are both on break, so we are both home together and I decided to try something…On Saturday, I let his male friend over, they had great sex that night; of course I didn’t let him cum, or even out of the cage, and then again on Sunday morning, I let the friend come over again, and they had fun again..Of course, I didn’t let him out of the cage and he couldn’t cum, but he still had fun…So on Monday, we were having a normal day,,,I cleaned house,,watched the grand baby for a few hours…still managed to grab his cock cage and acknowledge him,,,then on Tuesday night, I took his little cock out of the cage,.Had sex with him,,,of course, not letting him cum, but I cam several times, with his little cock inside me…then put him back in the cage, where he belongs,,Now, on Wednesday,,I have him locked in a cage, in a nighty and used clothes pins on his little cock.,{ out of the cage},..had him squealing in agony…put him back in the cage,,,and all he can ever say is that he wants me to peg him…I have done this before, ALLOT, and enjoy it very much…When its my idea…I’m just wondering why he cant just let it be my idea. Why does this seem to always turn into what he wants instead of what I want… As his Dom I’m really trying to understand his side of this,,but as my Sub, why can’t he just stop asking for things and let them happen when I want them too…Any advise…