Female led relationships discussion

For nearly a decade now, I’ve been working towards establishing our marriage as one where my wife leads. She takes pleasure in encouraging me to submit, and that dynamic is something I cherish above all else—being locked up, teased, and denied helps reinforce my ongoing submission and servitude. Consequently, she expects me to handle most household duties: cleaning, shopping, and doing the laundry. On a more intimate note, I am responsible for washing her underwear and keeping her shoe and boot collection in order. To outsiders, this might look like an ideal relationship they could dream of themselves. So why seek advice? My wife is quite vanilla and isn’t particularly keen on sexual stimulation herself. Since she embraced the WLM concept, we’ve stopped having PIV sex; instead, I give her oral pleasure roughly once a month. As for me, self-masturbation is only allowed in front of her when she grants permission. I have done my utmost to ensure this arrangement focuses more on her needs and what she desires rather than just mine. I’ve resisted the urge to propose some of my own extreme sexual fantasies—such as sissy maid roles, bondage, or punishments—which are things I’d love to explore. Yet, it still feels somewhat one-sided. I am doing all the giving, while she mostly offers tease and denial, occasionally verbalizing her demands once or twice a month for short periods. Although my lock has been on and off over the past eighteen months, I rarely feel that she truly cares either way; it seems more like tolerance than active encouragement of my chastity. I know she loves me deeply, which is likely why she avoids saying “no,” but equally reluctant to say “yes”. Most importantly, what I desire most is for her to genuinely enjoy keeping me in a state of teased and denied arousal, constantly desiring her, and encouraging this through more consistent tease and denial. Has anyone else experienced or dealt with something similar?

I feel for your situation. The key point is to "be careful what you wish for." What’s happening in our home reflects the core of this dynamic... it needs to be about her, not you. You are still attempting to lead from a subordinate position. You must accept whatever she decides and when she decides it. These are her rules. Honestly, things sound quite good for you. Just enjoy whatever comes your way as it arrives. In the meantime, keep worshipping at her altar. Sonic