Female led relationships discussion

Alright, where should I begin? Probably with the bad news. After reading @Mascara^Snake’s thread about how super short cages are currently trendy, I really wanted to get one myself. Even before that post, I was looking for a device that sits closer and hides better under clothes, but after chatting it over with her (thanks!), I went ahead and bought one. I placed the order on dhgate and couldn’t wait for it to arrive. It showed up yesterday, only to be utterly frustrating because I just couldn’t get inside it. I tried every trick—I actually bruised my penis trying to force myself through the rear ring. There are some funny pictures if you want to see them. But back to square one: I still lack a device suitable for wearing at work.

On a brighter note, there is good news coming soon! I’ve connected with a Domme on another platform and we’ve been talking quite a bit. We’re meeting up on Tuesday for coffee. Fingers crossed we have chemistry and get along well, though I’m incredibly nervous.

So really, I need advice on these two issues? First, do you recommend any small, short cages? I want metal with an integrated lock if possible. Comfort, security, and invisibility are key. After seeing the cheap Chinese option, which didn’t look very robust, I’m willing to pay for quality.

Secondly, about the meeting. As mentioned, it feels like a first date because it is my first D/s encounter in this context. Neither of us sees it as just a fantasy; we discussed everyday topics—music, compared pajamas—you name it. But how should I handle the meetup? Should I bring her a present, or would that be too forward and presumptuous? I’m already giving her the non-fitting cage to add to her collection. Any advice is welcome!