Chastity and orgasm denial discussion

Hi all - I haven’t popped in here for quite some time. I’m still married to my vanilla wife, though she’s now aware of what goes on behind closed doors. She doesn’t care much for the sissy or chastity aspects of me, but she wants us to stay together. I was too timid to walk out, yet I remain secretly connected with my Somme. Any tips would be greatly appreciated! xxx