Female led relationships discussion

My mistress doesn’t seem keen on taking charge. There’s no anal play, no dildos used, and she hardly engages in any sexual contact at all—even if it brings her pleasure herself; maybe once a month is about the max. She knows I like to dress up but wants nothing to do with that side of things. Our time together for activities is so infrequent it feels like seasons are passing by without much happening. She rarely tells me what to do really. I did ask her to step up, and after some discussion we reached a compromise: she wouldn’t have to put in as much effort, giving herself more room to relax into the lifestyle.