Introductions discussion

Hello everyone,

My wife and I have been practicing an FLR for a year and a half. I pushed for her to wear a chastity device, but it became obvious she wasn’t keen on it or interested enough to commit. So, I stepped back and got comfortable with our dynamic as it was. We share a deep love after 20+ years together.

Suddenly, while browsing a local leather/sex shop for Valentine’s Day treats, she picked out a birdlocked cage without prompting. She feels more ownership over the choice since I didn’t force it; it doesn’t feel like she ‘caved’ to my desires.

I’ve worn mine twice now (8-12 hours each) and experience significant ball pain, particularly during that last workday wear. My balls are usually tight, so locking them pulls them taut against the device. The tension was high enough to cause micro-cracks in the skin and mild edema. I removed it upon returning home, and my wife has kept me out of it for most of the week while healing.

It goes back on this afternoon. By pulling more of myself through, I hope to reduce some tightness. I don’t mind snugness (I actually like it); I just want to avoid actual pain or damage. We both love our parts and want long-term wear without discomfort—intentional torture works for us, but that’s different.

Will my balls adapt with short stints and gradual buildup? Or is the cuff simply too wide for someone whose balls sit tight naturally?

Any advice would be great as we’re excited about longer wear periods. Be careful what you wish for!

Thanks, Skaughtylocked