Female led relationships discussion

I’ve been hesitating on whether to ask my key holder to document her expectations for Key Holding through a few straightforward written agreements. Not a formal contract, but about five key agreements with real consequences for me, plus one or two that clarify how she wants to enforce them.

She isn’t very verbal regarding chastity, and we don’t always sync up on the dynamic. So for my part, this is about making life easier for both of us by providing clarity.

I generally need a stricter key holder with more consistent punishment; otherwise, I feel like I’m self-locking, which isn’t really what I want. My hope is that she writes it in her terms and desires, not mine. And if the arrangement doesn’t suit her well enough, maybe chastity lifestyle is just more of a kink for us.

So I’ve drafted an email since she’s quiet, basing the agreement on our current setup so she can adjust it as needed.

Would you send off the request or handle it differently?