Female led relationships discussion

My boyfriend and I are members of a local BDSM club, and last week an event made me reflect on our dynamic. To set the scene: there is a polygraph expert who works for one of the club owners, and this particular club is arguably the most “Extreme” venue we have both visited. A lesbian couple was present—one woman in her forties, the other (the submissive) in her late twenties. At some point, they called out for attention from the crowd. The sub underwent a polygraph test where she was asked questions like whether she truly loves and adores her partner, how happy she feels serving her, and finally, how many days it had been since her last orgasm. Her answer was nearly four months. When the tester confirmed this was accurate, everyone stood up to congratulate her Mistress.

Her Mistress then took charge, explaining their current situation and what was about to happen next. She stated that for her “Pet” (as she called her) to experience another orgasm, it would have to come through penetration by a man. The submissive girl looked shocked; her face flushed red slightly, tears welled up in her eyes, and she simply whispered, “Thank you Mistress.”

It was clear she wasn’t eager for a man inside her vagina—she is lesbian after all—but she agreed because it was her Mistress’s wish. I was amazed by the level of devotion.

I wonder what happened next; perhaps I will see them at the club again someday, but this episode left me wondering: Who sets the boundaries? If we consider enforced bisexuality as an example, are there set limits, or does the Dominant decide since the submissive must align with her desires? Because if it is truly “enforced,” the sub has little say in the matter, though obviously, she first had to surrender that power to the Domme.