Female led relationships discussion

My wife and I are both 67 years old with no medical problems. We carry a bit of extra weight, but we’re working on it. After 43 years together, our bond is solid.

We get along well, argue hardly ever, are retired, completely compatible, and deeply in love.

Perhaps I have one issue: my wife’s libido has been fading over the decades due to aging. My own penis hasn’t always been reliable either. While ED meds help me maintain an erection, reaching climax has become unpredictable. Since she usually needs me to finish first before she can reach her peak, this started messing with my head. During sex, I’d see her wondering when it would happen for me. Our frequency dropped from twice a year down to just once.

Another development was realizing we both sleep better on our own. She takes the master bedroom while I retreat to one of the other rooms.

We decided to accept a sexless marriage because we love each other, perhaps more than ever before. We are together financially stable with grown children and enjoy each other’s company.

However, I’ve always loved porn and masturbation. At night in my room, I might go hours without climaxing or finish two or three times in one stretch.

I don’t want an affair, especially since the uncertainty about finishing would still linger.

About ten years ago, I attempted to get into chastity because of my addiction to porn and masturbation. It worked twice, but my wife wasn’t particularly fond of it.

Two weeks ago, I reached out to a dominatrix and laid everything on the line regarding myself and my bucket list of fetishes.

I didn’t explicitly mention being locked up in chastity, though I did recall trying that route with my wife years prior.

To my surprise, her email came through the morning of my afternoon appointment: bring your device if you have it; otherwise, buy one from a sex shop in New Orleans. So I bought one.

At her place, she had me put on this new cage. It turned out to be an $85 waste.

After receiving a thorough spanking while being pampered by my domme, she agreed to hold the key. Right after leaving her apartment, I headed straight for a PA piercing.

Back home, I ordered an escape-proof Mistress Lori’s device as well.

I’ll have to wait 120 days for the piercing to heal before using it properly.

I truly believe my marriage will grow stronger because of this arrangement with Mistress Wolfgang.