Female led relationships discussion

Is passive dominance actually a real dynamic, or am I just toping from the bottom in my usual way? Here’s the situation: we’ve had plenty of sexual experiences. Although I have typically been the driving force behind things, recently I/we have tried out the cuckold and cage femdom setup, with me always being the Dom/Master etc. We’ve had a guy visit twice now. I’m always the one organizing and planning. I give my wife a nice massage and great sex; she didn’t mind him going bareback—a first for us. The second visit was at her request after responding to my question about what we should do on Friday evening. Although her request came quickly, literally as I was stepping naked into the bathroom for a shower, The main issue seems to be talk communication, contribution, assertiveness, or feedback; there appears to be none of it from her at any real level. However, the wife always seems very happy to go along with anything involving her passively minimal effort, while receiving maximum pleasure and attention.