Female led relationships discussion

Ever since we began our Female-Led Relationship, my wife has naturally leaned toward physical dominance and done it well. By that I mean using bodily actions to bring about pain, humiliation, or submission. Punishment spankings are the clearest example. Lately, though, I’ve seen her starting to adopt what I’d call sensual dominance. This is where she gives me pleasure while making it clear that she holds the reins over that enjoyment and that an orgasm isn’t part of the deal. Are your relationships a mix of both? Does one side outweigh the other? Which approach works best? One major hurdle for us has been shifting between these two modes. She once tried combining a spanking with some electrical stimulation from a wand on my cage, but it didn’t resonate with either of us. When she’s in punishment mode, her mindset is completely different. How do you KHs handle that shift?