Online chastity and self locking discussion

I wrote this blog on Fetlife mostly about online submissives wanting to meet in their first message, but you could swap “meet” for any fetish. Almost every note I receive is asking to meet meet meet; if it isn’t that, they are hitting me with a list of their fetishes. Where has the art of wooing and courting a woman gone? I thought submissive men would be best at this. Instead, they tend to be quite selfish (generally). They simply want to jump straight to the end game without putting in any work. What I desire from submissive males is to be charmed, impressed, courted, and treated like royalty. I want to feel that I am the most special person in their world, not just a fetish machine or a piece of meat. Vanilla men can do this; generally, submissive men are too self-centered, which is really quite crazy. You will never make any woman feel special when you systematically message every woman on this site, moving from one rejection to the next. If your system isn’t working, you need to change it! Find a dominant woman you truly like, do some research to see if she is genuine, then work incredibly hard to impress her. Leave no stone unturned and do what SHE wants. If she sees that you are a nice, pleasant human being who isn’t obsessed with his penis/butthole, you WILL get somewhere. Work hard to earn her favor, and then you might be able to bring up what YOU want; it could take weeks, months, or even years. Why would I meet someone who asks to meet in the very first message? That is exactly the sort of thing a pushy dominant male would do—the opposite of what I prefer. In fact, the males with the best chance of meeting me are those who never ever ask.

What is it that you look for in your online interactions with subs/slaves? What do you enjoy about having online subs/slaves or what draws you to them?