Female led relationships discussion

Taking to the soapbox briefly… Having been part of this community for about six months, I’ve likely read far too many posts across every topic area. It has been wonderfully educational and stimulating. I can only picture what other useful bits of wisdom await me as time moves forward. It took roughly a week before I grasped the strong sense of camaraderie present among CM members. In My view, this has to be the kindest and most supportive kink site on the web! Truly, a diamond in the rough. That said, I’ve observed a pattern in how people respond to certain thoughts/questions/experiences, especially concerning submission. These reactions usually split into two camps: supportive or antagonistic. For instance… “In time, you will learn to accept your role and things will get easier… Keep calm, please your Dom/me, and all will be well!” vs. “You can’t possibly be submissive because you have x, y, and z thoughts… You should feel ashamed of yourself because your very existence dilutes the value of us ‘true’ submissives.”​ Isn’t it safe to say, regardless of our commonalities and differences in D/s, that we are all humans and, as such, are inherently flawed and/or confused at times about this thing we call ‘life’? We all start at the beginning of a journey, yes? If that’s true… isn’t it also a total waste of energy for everyone involved if someone is belittled for baring their soul and sharing said flaws/confusion… or even just off the cuff thoughts about this lifestyle in general? I’m not saying genuine transgressions should go without recognition. All of us (Myself included) have done things we’re not proud of, and perhaps wish we could take back. We all have thoughts that confuse us; I would guess that’s why we share, in hopes for enlightenment! But if your sole purpose is to make yourself sound ‘subbier than thou’ in your response to a struggling submissive… don’t you think you could find something better to do with your time? Constructive criticism is completely different than active belittlement. Perhaps this distinction is something we could all think about the next time we fill those reply boxes. I know I’ll try My best to keep this in mind… and I hope you will, too.:) There’s enough negativity in the world… there’s no good reason to perpetuate it here.:love: