Female led relationships discussion

We’ve only been exploring male chastity for about four months now, trying to figure out what suits our relationship best. Overall, it has genuinely brought back the spark we used to have in our love life. We look forward to seeing each other and getting excited over texts again; it’s put that zest back into our days where work, toddler stress, and housework usually weigh us down—it really is transformative!

I receive plenty of unsolicited advice from “locked-up” men here on how I should discipline my sub. Perhaps because we are relatively new to this dynamic, but mostly he doesn’t need constant punishment. He’s generally compliant, eager to please, and obedient to both our bedroom needs and those outside it. That isn’t to say everything has been smooth sailing; with any new endeavor worth pursuing, there will be some bumps along the way.

Regarding your ideas for punishments: which by the way, guys, I know most of what you suggest I do to him is actually something you fantasize about…I am living a Female Led Relationship because I know my own mind…I don’t need you telling me what YOU want, I really don’t!;)

I’ve adopted a reward-based approach. Currently, my sub is locked up for the summer with what we both hoped would be no release allowed. Based on our experience so far, it would be unrealistic to expect him to pleasure me all summer without ever releasing. I haven’t mentioned this yet: while he was fucking me with my favorite strap-on, he released! Oh, and there was that time when just talking about his poor little cock after a good edging session, he couldn’t help but release…he’s a bit weak in the knees, but I like being able to stimulate him like that. It turns me on!

So this past weekend, after such a well-behaved sub the previous week—wearing his cage 24/7 and pleasing me countless times—I decided he deserved a reward. He would enjoy my favorite strap-on with the goal of milking him while giving some relief at home, but not a full release. I started by dressing for him in a latex corset (the word “latex” gets him quite worked up) and putting on my beloved 6” cock. I told him to get on top; he was eager but took his time mounting it. This position gave him too much control, even though this reward was HIS, I wanted to GIVE IT TO HIM! (pun intended). We quickly swapped roles, and I could feel my dominant side rising as I stroked faster and harder against his body. Each thrust pressed the base of the strap-on firmly into me, and within seconds my silk thong was completely soaked. Looking up from watching my cock slide through his tight ass while seeing his own dick swell in its cage, I realized we were moments away from him releasing again. The thought crossed my mind to slap his nuts to stop it, but I still get a thrill from making him cum.

This was just the beginning of the night for me after pounding him so thoroughly. Since then, I’ve established a more structured reward and punishment system; during that evening alone, he earned two punishments related to release. He has been given a specific date within our summer lock-up period before his next reward, and with those two punishments approaching, I have a feeling he might finally acknowledge his weakness!